I hope you'll always choose to dance
Life is just too short
If I were to ask you, what are you most afraid of in your life, what would be your answer? This is an interesting question when you think about it. It’s a question where the answer tends to change throughout our lives. As young children we don’t really have any fears – that’s why we tend to do crazy and often times stupid things without even a second thought. A prime example of this would be me and my cousin Josh deciding to walk across the train-track bridge that crossed over the Tomoka River when we were little kids. I can remember staring down at the wooden beams that formed the track, being sure to not miss a step. I don’t know how high above the river the bridge is, but I can tell you it was a long way down to the murky water. Of course, now looking back on that day I can think of a million different things that could’ve gone wrong ending in a tragic accident, but back then we had no fears. As we grow up and start to experience the hard times in life, we begin to understand that everything isn’t always going to be okay. As different as each of us are from one another, we all share many of the same feelings. We experience hurt, loss, disappointment, you name it we all experience it on multiple occasions. It can become so mundane in fact, that we just chalk it up to the fact that it’s life and focus on moving forward.
Today however, I want to give focus to one particular fear, worry, concern that I see the most with those I work with, the fear of regret.
In my business, the “fear of regret” always refers back to that infamous bucket list. Each of us has that list whether written down or just in our minds of all the things we dream of doing at some point in our lives. For myself, that list includes things like going sky diving, riding shotgun in a race car, taking a ride in a fighter jet, driving across the country, staying in one of those picturesque over water bungalows in the South Pacific. But it also has things like falling in love and having a family. Will I actually get to do all of those things in my life… I don’t know, but I can certainly dream about it can’t I.
But here’s where I’m going with this… What if during this past week which was Race Week in Daytona Beach I was approached by one of the drivers who asked me if I’d like to ride with him in his car for a few laps around the Daytona International Speedway and I said no. I mean let’s be honest, last week was so busy with work, I had to finish unpacking from the previous week’s trip plus pack for this week’s trip, and with just everything going on in my life it just wasn’t the right time.
Doesn’t that sound crazy? Absolutely absurd for me to pass up an opportunity to do something I’ve always dreamed of, the chance to cross off an item on my bucket list. You’re right, it is absolutely ridiculous, yet every single one of us do it all the time!
We are all so good at coming up with excuses for why we can’t, why we shouldn’t, why we won’t do this or that, no matter how badly we have always wanted to, that it is indeed just sad.
When I got the news that I had only 6 months left to live if the recently discovered brain tumor was not removed it suddenly put an expiration date on my life. And when I came out of that surgery with my life saved, yet at the cost of my ability to see I realized that the very breath we take at this very moment is not guaranteed. Everything in our life can be taken from us in a moment’s notice.
That is why, I urge you with everything I’ve got to not let one moment be taken for granted. What you can do today you may not be able to do tomorrow. The dreams you have today may be taken from you tomorrow. Do yourself a favor, live your life today…
If it’s calling me to finally book that trip you’ve been talking about forever then please, call me. If it’s finally taking the 10 minutes to call that friend you’ve had on your mind for the past couple of weeks then please, call them. If it’s making a point to tell your family “I love you” before you hang up the phone each time you talk then please, just say “I love you”.
When it’s all said and done, each of us are going to look back on our lives and see every missed opportunity and are going to have to live with that feeling of regret from that point forward. No matter how many times in your past you have made a decision that at the end of the day you regretted, make this be the day that you stop and think twice before you pass on another opportunity that you’ve been dreaming of.
I will leave you with one last thought… Please don’t take what I have said today as fuel to instill fear and worry in your mind, but rather use it as a reminder that when given the chance to sit it out or dance, always choose to dance!